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My three year old's a nightmare to get dressed!
"Hi Annie
I have a three and a half year old daughter. She's great most of the time but it's always a nightmare to get her dressed in the morning. She goes to daycare and we're always in a rush and that's the moment when she causes a problem. She either refuses to wear something I've put out and/or starts screaming. Mornings are stressful enough without this problem. Any help you can give would be great.
Nancy
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Hi Nancy
I sympathize with your problem. Firstly try and make sure you've built in lots of time to get ready in the morning. A ticking clock always adds to the stress level. It's ok to let your daughter have a choice over what clothes to wear, but keep it limited. Two to three choices is fine based on weather and suitability, but try not to get carried away. Next focus on what she does well. Help her to feel empowered and successful at dressing herself as much as possible and give her lots of praise for a job well done. Also make sure her clothes are easy to manage. If after taking note of all the above she still screams, then make sure you don't give in. Give a couple of warnings first, then if the behavior continues, put her in the naughty place for three minutes or so. Briefly explain as to why she's there and then after she's done, expect an apology. Don't forget to completely ignore her if she tries to initiate contact and start the timer again if she comes out of the designated spot. Once she's finished you can lighten your tone and look as though you confidently expect her to co-operate. (You might wonder why I suggest a naughty place instead of a step or chair. The reason why I chose that is because a 'naughty place' is always transferable. You can keep the same place at home, but it gives you a handy alternative whenever you're somewhere else.) Hope this helps with your problem.
Annie
Date Entered: 2006-07-17 17:59:58.0
Date Last Modified: 2006-07-17 17:59:58.0
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